Open Letter to a Muslim Woman
Dear Dr. Quraishi-Landes:
My hometown newspaper, the Erie Times-News, trumpets harsh headlines today: Muslims face threats: U.S. WOMEN WARNED TO STOP WEARING SCARVES, VEILS. “On the night of the California shootings,” the Associated Press article begins, “Asiha Quraishi-Landes sat on her couch, her face in her hands, and thought about what was ahead for her and other Muslim women who wear a scarf or veil in public.”
Although I read on, the image of you in your home, troubled at the prospect of you and your Muslim sisters being harassed or worse will be plenty to think about for one day.
I know what it’s like to sit with my face in my hands, but not out of fear for my safety. As a white man in the United States, I’m mostly to blame for my own bouts of suffering—poor decisions, personal weakness. I didn’t think twice about heading out the front door this morning and relaxing here at Starbucks with a tall Americano. Nobody cares what is on my head.
But you do have to consider scarfs and veils. “To all my Muslim sisters who wear hijab,” you wrote on Facebook, “If you feel your life or safety is threatened in any way because of your dress, you have an Islamic allowance (darura/necessity) to adjust your clothing accordingly. Your life is more important than your dress.”
The compassion of that last sentence is the fragrance of my Christian-Lutheran faith. In the end, I have to look up from my sacred pages and into the eyes of fellow pilgrims, whose lives call me to study with my heart. As a parish pastor I’ve taught for years that I can’t obey God with rancor strangling my mind and fear torching my soul. The letter of any law is brittle without mercy.
Do we speak these same thoughts in our own ways? I’m guessing we do. And we’ve felt the rancor, fear, and merciless convictions of our most troubled brothers and sisters take our breath away. These are jolting times. Like you, I hold my face and read sadness behind closed eyes.
But you looked up and wrote mindful words to an anxious world. Thank you. I look up with you and remember what the Gospel of John says about losing hope: “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it.”
A few weeks ago at another Starbucks I caught some light, and it had to do with hijab. A young woman was waiting for her companion to doctor his coffee. Holding her scarf in place was a pin, a striking burst of gold. I thought at once of a monstrance, which holds the host in Roman Catholic practice.
I walked over to her and said, “I’m not a creep, I promise. I just wanted to say I love that pin you’re wearing.”
She responded with an oh, thank you and a smile. I probably could have skipped the creep preface, since I was sitting with my wife. Anyway, I returned to my table, where I looked up after a few seconds. She was still offering me her smile. I gave her another one of mine for the road. In our small pocket of the United States, two believers exchanged mercy.
This is my reason for writing, actually: I wanted to return to you a mercy. You told your sisters, “Your life is more important than your dress.” I say to you, “Your life is important to me, yours and those in your Muslim family, no matter what you wear. If we should happen to meet, I’ll recognize in your eyes my own spirit, longing for a world of welcoming arms and kind voices.”
I couldn’t love this post more if I tried.
Hey, Nancy. You’re one of the busiest people I sort of know. Please know that it means a lot to me that you read and comment on what I’m tossing out there. And . . . I dig your stuff as well. You crack me up–which ain’t always the easiest thing to do. Peace, John
Have you been following what’s happening north of the border with respect to the refugee situation? The first 3 refugee-filled planes landed in Toronto Thursday night, about an hour after my flight got in. I saw all the TV crews and wondered what was going on. When I arrived home I watched the news with pride. Our newly elected Prime Minister was there to greet them and welcome them to Canada. Very proud to be Canadian.
I’d be proud, too. Dismayed, I am, at our response to the problem. South of the border, I’m waiting for Donald Trump to say enough scurvy things to get voted off the island . . . which may be never. Arg!
Sadly, you may be right.
sweet expression of love
beyond the veil 🙂
Thanks, brother. “Beyond the veil” . . . good one! John
I wish there more John Colemans. 🙂 Or at any rate, I wish I ran into them more often.
Thank you, ma’am. Right back at you. Peace, John
Hello pastor John.
I enjoyed this article. I miss you and Kathy and the rest of the family. My wishes for a BLESSED CHRISTMAS to you all.
You are loved. Will see you soon.
Blessed Christmas to you and Eddie and the whole gang. Love and miss you, too. Peace, John
Wonderful to read this just before heading out for work this morning. Underneath our layers and clothings and beyond our borders we belong to each other. Peace back, Julie
This is a beautiful post
Thanks, Mary. And thanks for stopping by my blog. I’ll keep an eye on yours. Peace and best, John